Learn to evaluate and improve yourself—Don't blame your spouse alone


DIVORCE IS NOT THE BEST IDEA

A son came to his father with slumped shoulders, angry and exhausted.

“Dad, I’ve decided. I’m filing for divorce. Enough is enough. Mom was right—my wife is lazy. How long am I supposed to carry everything on my own?”

The father looked at him closely, sighed, and said quietly, “Forgive me, son…”

“For what?” the son asked, surprised.

“For the times I wasn’t gentle enough with your mother. And maybe it’s partly my fault that a dark corner settled in your heart—one that’s pushing you toward this decision.”

“So you think I shouldn’t get divorced?”

“Not only should you not—don’t even let that thought take root.”

“So what, just suffer for the rest of my life?”

“No. Not suffer your wife—suffer your wrong attitude toward her. Change yourself, and the world around you will change too.”

“And how am I supposed to change?”

“Look at your wife through the eyes God looks at us with. She is a gift given to you. Your joy. Your support. The mother of your children. She’s a fragile vessel placed in your hands so you would protect her with care and tenderness. Everything else is secondary. Today she may not know how to do something—she’ll learn. And be honest with yourself: you don’t know everything you should either.

"If she’s overwhelmed, cover her weakness with your strength and your love. If she doesn’t understand something, explain it in the evening over a cup of tea, with your arm around her shoulders. Your path is yours alone—no one else can walk it for you.

"Anyone who plants hatred toward your wife in your heart is an enemy of your home. It doesn’t matter who it is—your mother, your brother, or your best friend. Don’t hold grudges, but make it clear: when it comes to your wife and your family, you will stand firm and won’t allow anyone—even with words—to touch your love.”

“And you and Mom… people tried to break you up too?”

“Even without ‘helpful advisors,’ we argued plenty. We were young and proud. But your path is different. God isn’t chasing you away from each other. Ask Him for wisdom. Learn to compromise, to protect, to bring each other joy. 

"Love, my son, grows. And you won’t fully understand its greatness now—but later, in old age, when you put your arm around your wife’s shoulders—the same woman you walked through life with—and no words will be needed anymore.”


Adapted from the article shared by our friend, Motorland via Facebook on Thursday 25 December 2025.

Pictures are for illustration purpose only.

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